“I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.” - Augusten Burroughs
Nobody is perfect. That’s a cliché, but it bears repeating. Whenever we get too hard on ourselves, it’s important to remember this fact.
Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Things that come easily to some people can be incredibly difficult for others.
But to what extent should we hold ourselves accountable?
For example, if someone is late all of the time…do we consider that trait a flaw to be forgiven? Can the perpetually late person let themselves off the hook and blame it on their nature?
It’s hard to say. On one hand, it seems like we shouldn’t be too tough on ourselves or others if something doesn’t come easily. On the other hand, how can anyone see improvements if we’re always making excuses?
Like almost anything, it’s probably all about striking a balance.
The important thing is to practice compassion when acknowledging the flaws in ourselves and others.
But what about cases where we don’t see people with flaws? When we idolize celebrities or get carried away in love, our rose-colored glasses alter everything in an unrealistic light.
It can be crushing to ‘meet your heroes’ or discover flaws in a partner.
Once again, we just need to keep perspective.