Some days come and go without much thought or attention. They slip through our grasp, like sand through the knuckles of a clenched fist.
What does it mean to waste a day? There is the famous quote, "Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time."
So is it just pure enjoyment that makes a day special? Wouldn't culture just descend into lustful hedonism if people only cared about pursuing pleasures?
Things like drugs, porn, and gambling tend to lead to a hollow happiness. Maybe we need a more clear definition of happiness. Like the happiness that comes from learning a new skill or overcoming a challenge.
Or what about relationships? We are social animals, and belonging to a group feels natural and important.
But I don't think it's enough to just have friends, you actually have to do things together.
A friend once told me he thought the best relationships were those in which you could just hang out and enjoy each others' presence.
I agree to some extent, but I'd get restless if there weren't some kind of activity to do together. You could travel together, play a game, go to a museum, form a band, launch a startup...
When I look back on my favorite memories, they usually involve doing simple things with good people.
I think part of the problem is that we tend to over-plan things. I get anxious if I don't have a structured schedule. However, we need to make room for serendipitous fun.
Some of our best memories were the result of surprises and unforeseen circumstances. Nights that took strange turns and led to adventures.
A lot can happen in a day. Some of my favorite movies took place over the course of a day...Ferriss Bueller's Day Off, Before Sunrise, Dazed and Confused.
I guess not every day can be a gem. Some days must be more special than others...otherwise none of them would stand out! But we need to make a conscious effort to make our days count.
Another quote I like is, "Life isn't about the number of days you live, but the number of days you remember."
So how are you making your days memorable?